💌 Connection #3: How to make a great request

1 idea, 1 practice, 1 question

Hi friend,

Here’s 1 idea, 1 practice, and 1 question to create more expansive connections this week.

One idea to consider

A request is anything you’d like someone to do in order to better meet your needs.

Here are the 3 steps to making a great request:

1. Lead with your intention. Create openness and ease by affirming you hope to achieve something that both parties want.

2. State your need. Clearly state the need that would be met or the feeling you would have if this request was accepted.

3. Make your request. Make a request that is positive (what you want, not what you don’t), specific (concrete and actionable), and inviting (a choice, not a demand).

One practice to try on

Try one of the following structures the next time you’d like to make a request:

“My intention is to create ___. I would feel ___ if you ___. Is this something you’d be willing to do?”

“My intention is for us to ___. My need for ___ would be met if you ___. Is this something you’d be open to doing?”

If your request is accepted, great! If not, you can ask for feedback. If you feel your request isn’t heard, you can ask for it to be repeated back to you.

One question to ask

“What’s something you’re currently coming to realize?”

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