💌 Connection #24: Being a Better Villager

1 idea, 1 practice, 1 question

Hi friend,

Here’s 1 idea, 1 practice, and 1 question to create more expansive connections.

One idea to consider

We all want “community” but are you willing to be a better villager?

Villages thrive on reciprocity, not convenience.

True villages aren't built on transactions or showing up only when it's easy. They're sustained through mutual investment and interdependence. The strongest communities are those where members give without scorekeeping, understanding that contribution creates a resilience that benefits everyone eventually. When we shift from seeing community as something that serves us to something we serve, the entire dynamic transforms. A thriving village requires us to be givers first, not just when it's convenient or when we need something in return.

One practice to try on

Create a regular "open door" ritual in your life.

Designate a consistent time when your door (literally or figuratively) is open to your community. This could be a monthly potluck dinner, a weekly coffee morning, or even a standing invitation for Sunday afternoon walks. The key is consistency—when people know they can count on your presence, they're more likely to show up themselves. These regular touch points create the foundation for deeper connections and provide low-pressure opportunities for community members to seek support when needed. The simple act of making space for others regularly signals your commitment to being a villager, not just having a village.

One question to ask

“What small act of village-building am I avoiding because it feels uncomfortable?”

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